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23rd Jun 2021 from TwitLonger

Response to @iBDWSSBM's TwitLonger


I will respond to each paragraph of iBDW's latest TwitLonger in full (https://www.twitlonger.com/show/n_1sro2d0). I maintain that this TwitLonger is riddled with lies and manipulative language that is being fueled by the willful and malicious intent to harm my reputation. This belief is consistent with the lengthy history of malicious intent iBDW has exhibited toward me throughout the time we've known each other (as described in my previous TwitLonger - https://www.twitlonger.com/show/n_1sro2bu), as well as his own claim that he is an "experienced lying manipulator" (https://imgur.com/a/yKgaw5u).

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"Going to make a thread of final responses to him and then be done with this forever, because this is now just a he-said she-said situation with nothing that I can do to prove either side besides the endless amounts of screenshots and contradictions I've shown from him:"

-> I have debunked the vast majority of iBDW's screenshots. All screenshots that contained things such as me saying "his story was faked" were tweeted by iBDW with the willful and malicious intent to misrepresent what I meant. I was only ever referring to the fact that he faked a specific detail within his testimony (which he has used to exploit me and others), whereas he wanted to paint the picture that I was soullessly dismissing his entire testimony. iBDW has yet to respond to the fact that he knee-jerk tweeted these screenshots and declined my request to talk him out of doing so (https://imgur.com/a/gNeuwmC). He even acknowledged the possibility that this discrepancy was the root of the issue during his stream, then continued to smear campaign me anyway (https://tinyurl.com/ddwnvwxn).

Malicious intent is undeniable in this situation.

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"He 100% told me to my face that I had to have wanted it, I was 14, etc. To say anything else is just a lie and I have nothing else to say, and this is in line with how he's talked about victims in both evidence.zip and the D1/Moon/DJ discussions. I already admitted that I exaggerated the story, and have been nothing but transparent with the details since day 1."

-> I deny this claim in full. iBDW is a self-proclaimed liar and manipulator who has already lied about certain aspects of his story, and now he's saving face by defending more of his lies. There are numerous ways to infer that I would not have made this comment, such as the fact that I've declined advances from minors in the past (he knows who I'm referring to), and that I have zero history of sexual misconduct. Dismiss this claim.

iBDW has lied about the D1/Moon/DJ discussions as part of his attempt to dogpile me with baseless claims. I initially made it clear that they needed to be banned, but at first I wasn't sure if it was appropriate to name them within the NYC SSBM statement. Others such as Ryobeat and Emily then told me that I needed to, at which point I obliged and spent an entire day writing the statement by myself.

I am in no capacity malicious for the D1/Moon/DJ claim. I was simply faced with a huge responsibility and didn't know the proper way to respond. Dismiss this claim.

iBDW has no one other than people like himself to blame for the fact that I cannot place my full and unconditional trust in victims. Other examples include Leffen during his 2020 road trip testimony, CaptainZack, etc. iBDW has an obligation to tell the truth within his victim testimony as to avoid causing problems. This is a completely reasonable request that any court of law will stand by.

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"He talks about dating his ex girlfriend, which unfortunately is the actual meat of this issue, this was 6 months after they broke up, and he leaves out the part where I wanted to talk with him to make sure I'm transparent about it and want to make sure he's okay, because, and I told him, I would've said no without any harsh feelings if it made him uncomfortable. The fact that he's even bringing this up is absurd, and leaving this out is just a glaring hole in his story."

-> iBDW is painfully socially unaware, as evidenced by my screenshots. Take for example the fact that he couldn't gauge that manipulating me with his false testimony had caused our friendship to cease (https://imgur.com/a/TFce6AP), or the fact that he still contacted me many times after that only to continue to get ghosted (https://imgur.com/a/ryjBFbA).

When iBDW approached me about dating my ex, I didn't want to cause problems so I lied to him and said I was fine with it. This is a very normal way to respond in this situation. I'm obviously not going to tell him to not date a girl he's interested in when he's already started talking to her. Jesus christ.......

Obviously, dating my ex so shortly after the break-up was going to make things awkward. This wouldn't normally end the friendship for me, but my friendship with iBDW was already well on its way out because of how horrible he'd been to me (and continues to be to me), so it happened to be the straw that broke the camel's back.

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"He also talks about how I tried to reach out to him multiple times, to which he repeatedly said he would have a discussion with me and never did. He also leaves out, that he contacted me to get Leffen off the frame 1 to the boxx, and when it was clear I didn't want to, he once again ceased communications, despite ignoring my previous requests to talk through our differences so we could have a neutral relationship and move past whatever he had been upset with me for (which at the time I didn't know)."

-> I cannot discuss this situation in full due to legal reasons. However, iBDW is lying once again. He agreed with me that speaking to Leffen about this was warranted, and so he reached out to him (https://imgur.com/a/78dC2mP). iBDW is lying by phrasing this as though I made him do something against his own will. See the screenshot.

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"The claim that I intentionally manipulated him to garner sympathy is just outlandish. Why the fuck would I use an incestual assault case to gain sympathy? There's 80 million things I could use instead, so why the one thing that people would rag on more than literally anything else? Trauma is one of the most anxiety inducing topics, and I wanted to tell a close friend of an experience that repeatedly came up because I felt genuinely uncomfortable whenever parents came up, and (again, wrongfully so) got extremely anxious about his response (apparently rightfully so) and exaggerated the extent of the abuse it. That's a garbage thing to do, and one of the main reasons I got help."

-> I will repeat that iBDW told me this story with the intention of manipulating me. Why else would he include the false sexual intercourse claim after it was clear that I already sympathized with him? iBDW saw that I had very little interest in being friends with him by that point, and so he desperately looked to change that by guilt-tripping me as hard as he possibly could. I will repeat that this is a self-proclaimed "experienced lying manipulator," and that I have proven time and time again to be an honest man.

Please take a moment to consider how it makes any sense that someone wouldn't sympathize with iBDW after hearing the truthful version of his story. The reason iBDW adds the fabricated details is to leverage the story maliciously and exonerate himself of abusive behavior.

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"The types of jokes like "i Banged Dad's Wife" he made aren't a "mistake", you don't "mistakingly" joke about sexual assault if you truly care about victims. A "mistake" is "sorry I bumped into you." That's an unbelievably malicious thing to say in any context. He also talked about how I said I was "proud" to be a manipulative liar. Who would ever be proud of that? That's pure speculation that's just trying to paint a picture of someone to make their argument seem more generous. I'm not proud of it, if I was why would I go to therapy? Why would I seek help? Why would I make that post in the first place? To gain "sympathy" because my mom assaulted me? Why wouldn't I pick any of the other things from my past, that's not something you put out in public for "sympathy" because every day I get jokes in my chat and DMs about it."

-> The joke mentioned in the first sentence is the only aspect of iBDW's case in which he is right that I made a heinous mistake. This mistake was prompted by years and years of abuse that caused me to snap. iBDW is condescending / patronizing to the point that we used to joke about it (https://imgur.com/a/ilblyYe), started dating my ex shortly after our break-up, guilt-tripped me with a falsified testimony, and publicly called me an atrocious human being, a braindead player, and a clinically insane person. I did literally nothing to iBDW this entire time. I maintain that I am deeply apologetic for my comment despite the ludicrous amount of provocation.

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"I find him talking about how I manipulated him to be intensely comical, because that's what he's been trying to do to an entire community for a month. Every single one of his friends have come out to talk about problematic behaviors he's had, and this has clearly been going on for an extended period of time. Keep in mind, he never ONCE denied the claim I'm obviously most upset with until his most recent twitlonger, not once on twitter did you think to deny that, instead talking about how I exaggerated my experience over and over again? Why would that be? I find that very interesting"

-> I haven't been looking to manipulate anyone. If anything, people who support me are being manipulated into believing that I'm crazy, and that's what's allowing Leffen to get away with a long list of awful allegations. This is exactly how he evaded convictions during the time of Evidence.zip 1, by the way. Tons and tons of gaslighting and denial with zero honesty, and iBDW is contributing to it.

The fact that people have been quick to turn on me during a moment of weakness says nothing of my character. I've consistently been a role model to many people throughout my life, and I've had a massively positive impact on this community. iBDW's comment about how I've historically been a problem is opportunistic and manipulative.

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"And then at the end of this discussion, he goes back to Leffen, and how he "lucked out?" Are you serious? It's unbelievably tone-deaf, he made the comments in public, and I had EVERY right to call them out."

-> I'll admit that "lucked out" may not have been the best term, but as I said earlier, there was a long list of allegations in Evidence.zip 2 that community leaders are currently ignoring. Leffen is above the law and we all know it.

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"I am not a perfect human being, I absolutely have made mistakes, and if the community decides that for those previous mistakes, I need to take a break, then so be it. Him self-imposing a three month ban (conveniently when there aren't any IRL events) after everything he's pulled, however, should be another indicator of someone trying to push their own narrative without trying to understand the severity of their actions, and not accepting anything they've done in the past. I have no desire to talk to this person anymore, and the only other thing I will apologize for is publicly calling you clinically insane. It was a stretch, and I had no right to do that. I'm sorry."

-> At least I admitted that I need to be temp-banned in some capacity. iBDW ignoring my claim that he needs to be banned for the way he handled this situation is a full denial of the fact that he misrepresented my statements with the intention of destroying my reputation.

I appreciate iBDW's apology for calling me clinically insane. What I need him to know is that this statement, on top of years and years of abuse from him in other forms, was the only reason I made the crude joke about him. However, this doesn't change the fact that my joke was in no way, shape, or form appropriate. I am sorry once again.

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I believe iBDW should mutually agree with me to publicly dismiss our claims. That is honestly the only fair way out of how horrible he's made me out to be relative to what I'm actually guilty of. The fact is that both parties are in the wrong here, and once the hatred for me subsides, iBDW will stand to lose a lot from his acts of malicious intent and deception.

This entire situation is ridiculous and if we can't come to a mutual agreement, then I may need to pursue legal counsel for the fact that iBDW willfully and maliciously created a misrepresentation that is currently destroying my image. Despite the mistakes I've made in recent weeks, I urge people to see that iBDW is making a very clear attempt to embellish what I'm actually guilty of in a way that will permanently stain people's perception of me. At this point, he should contact me in private and settle these issues in a reasonable manner.

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