briellelol · @briellelol24
15th Dec 2022 from TwitLonger
Streamer, absence, and criticisms
There are people who genuinely cares for who they call their "oshi", and then there are people who calls someone their "oshi" and expects their "oshi" to stream for them everyday, taking it as if it is granted, as if it was written in some forgotten stone where the prophecies were foretold.
The matter is, they are not obligated to send updates to you; you are a viewer at best, and if you send superchats or subscribed to their membership, on YouTube or what not, I guess you're a bit more special, but that does not mean that you are anymore different than your average viewer. Your oshi is in no obligation to tell you about what they are personally going through. If they want to stream on that day, they will. How ignorant it is to simply say that they do not care about you anymore just because they may be under some personal circumstances that they are not uncomfortable disclosing, hence not streaming.
If your streamer streams to you while they are having a fever, can you truly say that they are the heartless one who refuse to update you, or are you the heartless one for being completely ignorant to your oshi, while calling them your oshi?
It is simply demoralising to your "oshi" every single time they return to a social media platform, asking if you all are doing well, and what was greeted by them was endless bashing, coming from a group of people who legitimise the bashing under the excuse of "constructive criticism". If I were the streamer, I would hide away too, it would simply take all my motivation to stream on that day away; and even if I do, I would not be in a good mood either, I would feel absolutely forced, just because of a few whiny babies bashing me for something else I did not do wrong.
Asking them "where have you gone to, and why are you not streaming" is not constructive criticism, you are merely showing just about how manipulative you are to get what you need. Rather than asking them if they are fine, the first thing that escapes your lips (or hands in this case) is to seek responsibility without hearing from their side of the story. Constructive criticism can only be achieved if there is a good will, and a heart that actively seeks reconciliation between what happened and why it happened. What you have right there is not constructive; it is destructive, it makes everyone more miserable.
Final thing, do not take a streamer streaming for granted. They may be a professional entertainer, but they are in no ways your own personal entertainer. If you fail to comprehend this fact, go leave your PC, come back after you have talked to someone in real life. You need it, you desperately do; you need to learn how to be a normal human being again.