In regards to @dcwastaken:

Hi, my name is Nicky, however most of you know me as ludwig van. Whether you know me because of fighting games, Naoto sadlife, or w/e, you know of me.

One personal bit of information about me that became public knowledge a few months ago is that I'm transgender. I had planned on presenting myself as female for the first time this weekend and was excited for it b/c I have been the happiest I've /ever/ been w/ myself at this point. I prepared my wardrobe and whatnot for NEC and was ready for the weekend full of friends and anime fightmans. I've made NEC for 2 years and there was no way I was going to miss my 3rd year since every year it's been a great time w/ the tourneys that Stickbug runs (though Big E should /really/ look into a new venue for next year haha)

On Thursday night, I was saying hi to friends who I hadn't seen in a while, which is pretty standard fare. I was in the lobby and I hear DC call for me. He said someone else (who I'll keep anonymous) had a question for me and ran off. Later that night I see this person, ask them what their question was. This person shakes their head, says DC was the one w/ the actual question, and not to worry about it. However, since I'm an easily curious person, I insisted they tell me the question.

With a sigh: the person says: "DC's question is: do you still have your dick?"

What.

Uh...

What the actual fuck?

(Note: if you don't see an issue w/ asking a trans person extremely personal questions like this, ask another trans person b/c I'm not explaining it further here.)

I keep those thoughts to myself however and do my part to play it cool. I try acting like it's no big deal at first and figure I'll try to set up a time to meet up with DC and discuss it with him so I can try to be mature about it. However, I'd later find out that trying to be mature with someone with a mentality of a 10 year old was a waste of time and effort.

So time passes, I avoid talking with DC because A) he gets drunk super early and having a conversation like that with a drunk person is a bad idea, B) I'm super uncomfortable and a bit angry with him, and C) for something like this it's preferable to be in a one on one discussion and was having trouble getting that. I tell others of what happened. I tell what happened to others and they all pretty much agree that I have a right to be upset. (Thanks all of you, people like you all make me still have love for the community in spite of shit like this.)

Sunday morning comes, I know I'm running low on time to discuss my issues w/ DC's question with DC himself. So I see him tweet that he's awake. I throw my uncomfortableness with him aside to do what I felt was the right thing to do and tweet at him to see if I can meet up with him. After seemingly dodging the fact that I'm trying to get a chance to talk with him I finally get him to say he's heading to the bar. I head straight over there and wait.

And wait.

And wait until 25-30 minutes pass. It's beyond clear that I've been dodged. My roomates from KC are getting ready to catch a cab to go get food and I tried and waited to try to discuss things with DC and him being a no-show clearly showed his intentions of not giving a fuck.

I subtweet him b/c I'm done trying and he responds he's in the main ballroom, but his lack of telling me that sooner says enough for me. I go to wait on the cab w/ my local fgc and it ends up not happening ironically enough b/c of a traffic jam that was apparently happening that morning. While waiting, DC walks right past me into the hotel restaurant. I go upstairs to my room, put some things away/use the restroom/ect while feeling annoyed. One of my roommates texts me saying they ended up eating at the restaurant if I was interested. I go there, knowing that since I saw DC go in there earlier there was a chance he'd be there.

It turns out his table was right next to mine. He says nothing to me. I say nothing to him back b/c at this point I've already done what I could to talk with him and he ignored it. I eat my food while feeling even more uncomfortable and leave, watch tourneys, ect.

This would be where the story pretty much ends and I'd say "Fuck off, DC" but there's more. There's always more.

Late Sunday night I walk in a room and there's someone there (who will also remain anonymous) who I'd heard of before but never personally met. I introduce myself and whatnot. Conversation happens and DC gets mentioned by this person, another person in the room who's aware of DC's question for me says "Yeah, we're not really fans of DC", I chip in w/ "Yeah, he was pretty much a shithead to me this weekend".

The person I'd /just met/ for the first time says "Oh yeah, I've heard about that".

I don't know if my face showed it but my body froze.

This person who I'd never met personally before knew very personal details about myself. I don't know if that's b/c the information came from DC or from someone else I trusted and shared what happened myself, but my uncomfortable levels hit a new high. Questions like "How many people who I don't know now know about this" ran through my head.

This person said they learned of this from a conversation with others about shitty things that DC has done. To be fair, I don't know what this person's actual thoughts on DC are. Maybe they don't really like him? Maybe they do and my problems were just basically a water cooler discussion to be laughed at with others and "lol dc's being a shithead again lololol"? I don't know in the end. And I'll just leave it at that. However, the thought of the possibility of it being the latter made me even /more/ uncomfortable.

So, around 5am the room gets cleared out and people leave.

However, I stay up until 6am lost in thought in my room's bathroom. I felt angry, confused, ect.
I straight up asked myself if presenting as female that weekend was even a good idea.

/That's/ how fucking uncomfortable I was feeling.

Anyways, I eventually forced myself to sleep for 3 hours, got up, breakfast, plane, home now, ect ect

So

All that happens, and I'm a crybaby?

Are you fucking serious? You act like a manchild, offend someone who then tries to make things better with you, then avoid the attempts to make things better?

Get.
The.
Fuck.
Out.
Of.
Here.

I'm more mad and annoyed than anything else.

And another thing to address: "It's just DC being DC."

Fuck. That.

If a shithead acts like a shithead that doesn't make it ok that they're a shithead to begin with. Considering that his history of shit like tricking people who don't drink into drinking or putting fucking /cocaine/ in people's drinks, I was already wary of DC at best. This weekend sealed my view of him. How many more (worse) shit things does a person need to do for other people to figure out something's wrong with letting this person do what stupid shit that they want?

I've been way past the "let's just hold hands and sing 'kumbaya' together and everything will be ok" mindset. No. I'm standing my ground on this one. If I make enemies, I don't care.

Fuck off, DC.

And if you're not DC but you think I'm just a big crybaby, you can also fuck off. Tell me so I can block you and please do me a favor and block me back.

And if behavior like this is considered ok by the majority of the people in the FGC, maybe I should be looking for a new hobby.

Anyways, thank you for reading this long novel full of my thoughts. This took way longer than I thought it'd take haha.
Thank you everyone else who I spent time with this weekend and made it awesome in spite of the negativity mentioned here. You're all awesome and I love all of you. Hope to play you all in P4U2 and Xrd sometime.

For reference:
https://twitter.com/ludwigvanNS/status/541625537115217920
https://twitter.com/ludwigvanNS/status/541634450015399936

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