Two days ago, Rihanna and Chris Brown both released remixes of their respective singles featuring each other. Chris appeared on Rihanna's Birthday Cake and Rihanna appeared on Chris' Turn Up The Music. After the collaborations were heard, people began to go crazy. I myself went crazy in a good way because I had been waiting for the full version of Birthday Cake for what seemed like my entire life. I loved both remixes and went around the house dancing like an idiot. I was so excited to hear the songs and to finally have a full version of Birthday Cake that Chris and Rihanna's dramatic past was a secondary thought. For other people, not so much.

Rihanna was bombarded with horrendous tweets. People were saying she is dumb, she is an idiot, that she deserves to be hit again, that she is setting a horrible example, that she is sending a horrible message and that everyone who had ever been in an abusive relationship was going to return to the relationship and get hurt and die, that she has no self-respect... even before the release when the collaborations were just rumors, Billboard was writing her letters, telling her what she should and should not do, how she should and should not react. Everyone was completely ridiculous and out of line.

This anger and confusion was fueled by the belief that Rihanna and Chris were back together. However, Rihanna has not said they are back together. Chris has not said they are back together. Nobody relevant to them in any way has said they are back together. People tried to justify the belief they are back together by pointing out the sexually explicit nature of Birthday Cake's lyrics. However, Birthday Cake has always been explicit and was always going to be explicit whether Chris Brown was on the song or not. How many songs in Chris and Rihanna's discography lately are NOT sexual? Why are people acting like they sing about rainbows and strolls in the park? And if it really is the sexual nature that is angering people, then WHY are people upset about Turn Up The Music? The truth is that ANY type of collaboration would have sparked outrage. They're not mad about sexy lyrics, they're upset at the act of forgiveness.

These remixes are not a statement that they are back together. These remixes are not a statement that they are having sex. These remixes are a statement that they can be friends, that they can work together and that they can move forward with their lives regardless of any drama they had in the past. WHY would anyone be upset about that? I'll tell you why: because people are pathetic, people make no sense and people have no solid mind of their own.

People don't realize they are subconsciously placing Rihanna and Chris' personal lives in the same category as their professional lives. Recording music together is not equivalent to being in a relationship. Just like Chris Brown winning a Grammy is not equivalent to the Grammys condoning domestic violence. If Rihanna wants to work on a song with Chris, she has that right. If Rihanna wants to befriend Chris, she also has that right. The fact that people are upset that Rihanna is moving forward is disturbing. MIND YOU, they are NOT confirmed to be dating. They are NOT confirmed to be romantically involved in any way. All of this is happening simply because she made music with him.

If Rihanna is at a place in her life where she can forgive Chris and work with him and even be friends with him, who the hell are we to tell her that is not acceptable? Who the hell are we to tell her that she is supposed to be bitter and angry with Chris for the rest of her life? Who would wish that on someone? Have you people never forgiven anyone? Do you not know how AMAZING if feels to finally let go of something? To finally move forward? But for the sake of YOUR life and the sake of people around YOU and people you don't even know, you want to get ANGRY at her?

I have grown up around pop culture my entire life. From the time I was able to comprehend anything, I had favorite movies, favorite songs, favorite TV shows, favorite singers and actors. Some kids liked sports, some kids liked video games, I liked pop culture. I was obsessed with horror movies from a young age, but did I ever go to school with a butcher knife trying to kill kids I didn't like? No. I grew up around rap & R&B, saw music videos glorifying thug life and a whole bunch of other crap. Did I go to school in baggy pants, carrying a gun and acting ignorant? No. Some of my favorite entertainers have had public meltdowns, been arrested and all types of other stuff while I was growing up. Did I ever at ANY POINT want to do anything they did in their personal lives? NO. And you know why? Because I was fucking raised correctly and I grew up with a clear distinction of what was right and what was wrong, who to look up to and who not to look up to and I wasn't a complete imbecile.

Do you seriously believe that if someone in your life who has dealt with an abusive relationship goes back to that situation and you ask them "Why?" they are going to say "oh because Rihanna recorded a song with Chris Brown". That sounds completely idiotic, yet that is the reason so many people are angry. Nobody is confirmed to be in a relationship, so everyone is simply in a fuss because Rihanna recorded a song with Chris Brown.

But let me humor these dumbasses and say that Rihanna IS romantically involved with Chris again. It still doesn't matter. You know why? Every single person who has spoken out against this CLEARLY has their own opinion, they know their stance, they know their beliefs and they know their values. So if everyone possesses the knowledge and common sense that going back to an abusive partner is NOT a smart choice, WHY does it matter if Rihanna does it? You know it's wrong. That should mean your kids know it is wrong. And naturally that means if you have taught your kid how to make smart decisions and what is wrong and what is right, then you shouldn't give two fucks what Robyn Rihanna Fenty is doing.

People like to live through others. Some of you act like you were in the car that night and Chris Brown hit YOU in the face. Newsflash: you weren't and he didn't. Rihanna has stated several times she would like to move forward, they both wish each other the best and that is all that matters. No matter how angry you are, no matter how butt hurt you are: THAT IS NOT YOUR DECISION. At the end of the day, we don't know Rihanna and she doesn't know us. We have no idea what has happened privately, how much she has hurt, if she has gotten counseling, what her journey has been like internally, nothing. All we know is what we see in magazines, on TV and interviews. The fact that people believe they know what is best for her when they don't even know the entire situation is just comical. And wanting her to stay away from Chris to "set an example" is selfish and foolish.

Parents and the media can try to blame celebrities all they want, but when it all boils down, it is the parents' job to raise a child. It is a parents' job to pass down values and beliefs to their children that will help them lead the best life possible. If your daughter is wearing booty shorts, it is not Miley Cyrus' fault. Where did she get them? Who let her walk out of the house wearing them? If your son is smoking weed, it is not Wiz Khalifa's fault. Where did he get it? Who is he hanging out with? If your daughter is in an abusive relationship, gets out of the relationship and goes back, it is not Rihanna's fault. Have you talked about the situation? Have you helped keep her abuser away? Have you adequately told her the damage that could occur if she goes back, have you tried everything you can to get her to stay away? Because if you have, and she still goes back, chances are it has nothing to do with Rihanna.

Take responsibility for YOURSELF and those you care about. What I see are a bunch of people who already know what is right and wrong getting angry at Rihanna for not spreading a message they can spread themselves.

Whether you agree or not, Rihanna has indeed spread a message and that is a message of forgiveness. And you can either accept that or continue to be angry about it. Either way, Rihanna is moving on with her life and I suggest you all do the same.

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