Yes Being comes from Trueself leads 2 good habits #Leadfromwithin
Perhaps habits evolve from behaviors we believe meet our needs.
Habits reflect VALUES at some level so examine your values 2 create or break habits
Habits driven by Falseself are destructive; Habits led from within by Truself are growthful & life-giving

In his "Invitation To Love", Thomas Keating shares that when our normal, instinctual needs for security, love, and having a sense of control, are unmet during early childhood, OR preceived to be unmet, the fragile emotional life of the child begins to develop compensatory needs to offset the frustration of its instinctual needs or to repress painful memories into the unsciousness. Our mind may not recall the painful events, but our emotions DO remember.

When events occur later in life that resemble those once felt to be harmful, dangerous, or rejecting, the same feelings surface. If we feel deprived of any of those three instinctual needs (security/survival, affection/esteem, power/control) the security symbols of our culture will exercise an enormous attraction.

Since we developed these emotional programs for happiness before reason could moderate our emotional expereinces when we were younger, we are very frustrated and this triggers afflictive emotions (grief, anger, jealousy etc.).

The emotions faithfully identify the value system that developed in early childhood to cope with unbearable situations. These emotional programs for happiness start out as needs, grow into demands, and can finally become "shoulds'. Others are expected to respect our demands.

** I personally think "habits" might emerge somewhere between what Thomas Keating describes as our our "needs" evolving into our "demands".

To contine with Keating's ideas, thus people can grow in many ways, intellectually, physically etc., but remain fixated at a level of infancy, not having been aable to integrate their emotions with the other values of their developing selves.

False Self=self developed to cope with emotional trauma of early childhood and seeks happiness in satisfying instinctual needs of security/survival; affection/esteem; and power/control, and bases its self-worth on cultural or group identification.

True self=image of God or Other in which every human is created; our participation in divine life manifested in our own uniquness. (i.e., WE ALL are part of that same essence called Other or God.

3-minute Summary of the spiritual journey by Keating

** Google "Thomas Keating" for more discussions on True Self/False Self & The Spiritual Journey

Recommend two books by Keating; "Invitation To Love" and "Open Mind Open Heart"

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